Frequently Asked Questions on Waiting

I waited for four years before I could conceive my first baby; it was an incredibly difficult and lonely period of my life. It was challenging to find someone who would understand and see my pains and concerns. I waited and waited as days rolled into weeks and weeks into months and months into years. It felt like there would never be an end. I had so many questions but it was challenging to find answers. If you are in the same situation today, wait, do not despair, and do not lose hope because God has a plan for your life.

My spouse and I have been through the necessary medical investigations and were told that nothing is physically wrong with us but I am still unable to conceive. What else can we do?

Well, I congratulate you and your spouse that there are no adverse gynaecological conditions contributing to your condition. Although people say, a problem shared is a problem halved, I say a problem known is a problem halved. When my husband and I were informed that the initial gynaecological condition that was found through our test was no longer there after further test, I was relieved thinking that conception would take place immediately. I was also relieved because we prayed after the first test that showed bilateral closure of the fallopian tubes. The Lord heard our prayer and confirmed it through the second test that everything had gone back to normal. However, I was disappointed that I still did not conceive a few years after the good report;this caused me to be more frightened. This was my experience, and it does not necessarily mean that it would be the case for others. I knew that I had to hold on to God.

Whatever your situation is you need to keep on believing. Don't be discouraged, don't give up. Keep on praying. Take time with your spouse in seeking God's face for His direction. Also, if you have not been to your pastor, you may need to visit your pastor for prayer and counselling. Meanwhile, I would advise that you overdose yourself with sex.

I have had several fertility treatments and have been assessed by different gynaecologists. I have spent a lot of money but nothing positive seems to be happening. Doctors have told me that they can no longer help. What can I do?

Joyful Mothers Ministry does not offer or give advice on medical or gynaecological treatment. However, we are able to support you prayerfully. Therefore, you are encouraged to put your trust in God. There have been testimonies of God’s faithfulness in families, and God is capable of showing His power on your behalf. God is not a respecter of persons.

In the Bible, there was a lady with the issue of blood. She spent all her money hoping that she would be healed. Rather, her condition grew worse. As soon as she heard that Jesus was coming to town, she thought to herself ‘if only I can touch the hem of His garment, I shall be made whole.’ When Jesus got to town, the woman touched the hem of Jesus’ garment and was made whole. You can read her story in Mark chapter 5. You too can touch Him with your faith. With God, all things are possible.

Below are a few things that you could consider:

Has your spouse been tested?
Have you spoken to your pastor?
Have you sought God's face on the issue?
Send your prayer request to Joyful mothers or join us during one of our online prayer meetings

How can I improve my chances of getting pregnant?

Understand the timing of your ovulation. If in doubt, please check with your GP.
Manage your stress level because excessive stress can adversely affect the body. We all need a little bit of stress to do well in life. However, if it becomes excessive, it could adversely affect us physically and mentally. If you think you are under a lot of stress, please talk to your doctor on how you can effectively manage your stress level.
Alcohol and cigarette smoking can reduce your chances of conceiving, therefore, seek experts’ advice on how to make lifestyle changes.
Eat well and sleep well.
If you think that your condition might have a spiritual origin, then you may need to talk to your Pastor.
Keep a positive outlook on life.
Keep thanking God and affirming His promises concerning the fruit of the womb.

Some members of my family experienced delay in childbearing. Am I under a curse?

If you have noticed a trend of infertility in your family (your parents, grandparents, sisters or brothers), this may signify the presence of a generational root. In order to sever the link between you and the generational root, the link has to be broken prayerfully. You can tackle this by doing the following:

Acknowledge the generational sin
Repent of the sin for yourself and on behalf of your family
Kow that the Cross of Jesus Christ now stand between you and any negative generational link
You can then go ahead and halt the negative link and the curse at the Cross
Ask for freedom and release to flow from the Cross to your life and for God to bless your marriage with children.
Alternatively, you can ask your Pastor to assist you with the prayer

Is IVF an option?

With sincere sympathy to everyone finding it difficult to conceive, I have my personal convictions about IVF, which are based on my personal experience as at the time I tried the treatment. Technology may well have improved beyond my personal experience.

In order to make an informed choice, please ask your fertility specialist for information. Remember, it is not only your life and desire you should be putting into consideration but also the life of the unborn child as well as ethical, moral, and doctrinal considerations.

I have prayed, fasted and attended prayers of deliverance but nothing visible seem to be happening.

It is good that you are building a solid foundation for your reproductive life through prayer. Keep on praying because you can never overdose yourself on prayer and affirming the word of God. The Bible tells us that the word of God is life to those who find them and health to their flesh. Be sure that you are in right standing with God so that the Devil does not have any legal hold on your life.Ask and keep on asking. Don't be discouraged.

I also suggest you seek medical advice if you have not already done so, this would help to establish if there are any medical conditions causing the delay. Your Doctor will advise you of the next step.

As a believer, is it right to seek medical help for infertility?

There is nothing wrong with seeking medical help or treatment. Seeing a Doctor and undergoing investigations may reveal the probable cause/causes of your infertility. The result of any investigations may also enable you to channel your prayers appropriately.

I have had my pregnancy terminated in the past. Could infertility be a punishment for this sin?

God is merciful, and the accomplished work of Jesus Christ at Calvary is available to cleanse every inadequacy. Be sure to be genuinely repentant about it and ask for God’s forgiveness. Do not allow guilt and shame to dominate your life. Those that the Son have set free are indeed free. The Bible tells us that as far as the east is from the west so has He removed our transgressions from us (Psalm 103:12). Bring yourself under the blood of Jesus Christ which is able to wipe away all the consequences of your previous actions. You also need to forgive yourself. If you feel that you need to see your Pastor for further prayers please do not hesitate.